I just want to hide away

[WGTP]

I hope you all have more successful lives than I do and this isn't just a place to hid away from the sorrow and pain.

But If I get the perfect Tone, my life has meaning.

I've obviously had way too much Jack Danials and am in a significantly altered state.  I'm sure I will be humiliated in the morning, but i know you guys love me anyway.   This should be a trip.   :shock:

[smoguzbenjamin]

Man, get some sleep, come back in the morning and we'll still be here Don't worry yourself.

[troubledtom]

i know your pain......oooohhh the pain.
  best wishes take care,
              - tom

[RDV]

This is a nice alternate reality. Take Care.

Regards

RDV

[javacody]

Success is relative. You may not be rich, you may not own a lot of stuff, but if you can find a way to be happy, then you are truly successful.

[Aharon]

Take it eeeeeeasy,don't let the sound of your own wheels drive you crazy.
Eagles
Quoted by Aharon

[WGTP]

Thanks guys.  If I can survive the next few hours of the morning/afternoon after, I'll be OK.

I think humiliating yourself world/galaxy wide may be good for the soul.  A growth experience, I hate those. :=)

[downweverything]

things are what you make of them.

[jimbob]

Things cant be too bad considering your drinking jack daniels--you want tough times.. Try Nighttrain!..hahha...this place is a nice gettaway..Even my wife /bill collectors cant find me here,  

[Mark Hammer]

As strong an argument why it ought to be procedurally difficult to log on as any I've seen!! :wink:

If it makes a difference, I bought myself a 2.2Ghz CPU this weekend and still haven't installed it, and we got the cutest bunny for a family pet.  I spent the rest of the weekend lying in bed trying to recover from all the bloody driving.

Patricia Linville at Yale has porposed that people's "cognitive complexity" is an important component of what enables them to weather stressors in their life.  The more complex a notion of self one has in some respects, the easier it is to BE yourself and feel like you are still yourself when something comes along and eats away at your identity.  One of the many reasons why its good to have a creative life, an athletic life, a religious/spiritual life, an educational life, a family life, and a political life outside of one's working life.  Lose your job, or your marriage, or even your faith, and there is still plenty of "you" left.  Focus too much on one thing, and anything that threatens it can leave one feeling empty.  One of the many reasons why some professional athletes crumble as humans following an injury, or why some my-job-is-my-life cops/soldiers blow their brains out when forced to retire.

[J.Nadge]

Good stuff, Mark.  I especially appreciate your point about not putting all our resistors in one bin, as it were.  I think you meant to imply that fullfillment in one category doesn't make up for dissatisfaction in the others.  Our old good friend, Dr. Frued used to say it takes three things in life: love, work and play (sorry if I've quoted this before).  Dedicate life to leaning into the richness and complexities of these and we got it made, right?  If only it were so easy. :?  

WG, you seem to be a good hearted, sincere person.  Call me an optomist, but things often come around for people like that!

[Mark Hammer]

It's more of an actuarial approach than anything else.  The odds are pretty damn good that as life proceeds one accumulates "loss events".  *Something*, and indeed, a lot of things, are going to evaporate over the course of one's life, simply because you can't freeze time.  One may derive immense fulfillment from the things one does, but ultimately, your neighbourhood will change, your kids will grow up, your dick won't work any more, your legs or fingers won't work like they used to, your cousins will die, your workmates will move on, your job will disappear, a newspaper will fold, they'll stop making that flavour of soup you like so much, your favourite sweater will finally wear out and they won't make another like it, "Friends" will go off the air, your minister/rabbi/imam will leave or the board of directors will get hijacked by newcomers, your favourite political party will be voted out of office, etc. etc.  
It is quintessentially the nature of life that loss events start to add up more briskly as one gets older.  Any of these pose a challenge to sense of self in subtle or major ways (and for some folks, not being able to get your favourite soup or ice cream flavour can be seen to signifiy that YOUR world has disappeared and you have to be someone different now).  Having lots of different selves, though, helps one cope more effectively with all the individual losses because there are lots of sources of fulfillment where sense of self continues undisturbed. So, its not so much how fulfilled you are *now* with what you do, but insurance against the prospect of having your current sources of fulfillment yanked out from under you.

Think of it this way:  if you have a 24-input mixer, losing one channel still leaves you with your "sound" intact, compared to a 2-input mixer.

The intent is not to pitch a doom and gloom view.  Rather, life CAN be a bitch, but we find that people who spread themselves out a bit (not too thin, because that brings its own stress) are happy in spite of that.  The goal is to figure out how to be happier "in spite of" things.

Anyways, this oughta be in OT/BS over at Ampage, so I'll tape my mouth and fingers for now.

[WGTP]

I may need some more JD to understand all of this.  Like all of us, at times I find myself in a situation that has multiple options, but none that satisfy my primarily spoiled by a good life/highly blessed self.  I've been in this situation for several years now, and it is wearing me down, with no end in sight.  This leaves me with having to pick between the options I don't like, (thanks God you came up with a really good trial I have to appreciate, even if I don't like it).  So far I have probably flunked the test, which I'm used to in spelling, but not so much in dealing with life.

I had also just returned from a bar which featured among other things, a band with musicians no better than most of us here, that was non the less rocking the joint.  Sadly, I have not been successful at integrating a functioning Rock and Roll unit into my life.  I may be getting better, but I'm not getting any younger.  I need to be spanking a Black Fire or Sweet 16 out into the atmosphere.

To some extent may original post reflected my lack of real friends to comizerate with (meaning live and in person) and the wonderful scense of community that we have here.  Thanks to all for the advise in a number of areas.  Now if I can figure out how bread boarding works.   :lol:

[Paul Marossy]

I can empathize with you. I have a lot of acquaintances, but really do not have any friends. Fortunately, I have a family to focus on so I don't think about stuff like that too much. I'm just too busy!

This is a great place to hang out and learn stuff. It really is cool to play something that you built yourself.  

It's difficult to balance wanting to build stuff and becoming a better guitar player or at least maintaining what I have. That's something I need to focus on more. That's somewhat OK, though. I don't have any desire to be in bands anymore and stuff. I play at church on Sundays and that is pretty fulfilling, actually. I think it's really more important how I have grown as an individual in the last few years. Life has lots of lessons to teach us if we are willing to learn them.

[Nasse]

:oops: Just talked about most important things in life with guys at work (well I can not say they are my friends but they were the big bosses and few other not so big but few older ones that "have seen the life") One person told he had some kind of serious trouble going on with his wife and was in the middle of some kind of family cricis or big bad change of life situation.

We discussed about some common personal risk analysis knowledge. It is well known fact, that a male person getting older, no wife/girlfriend or some kind of family or comparable steady life and so better situation that comes with the life situation is in great danger to die younger or get ill or lose his social status even worse. The risk to die younger than "normal" is twice as high

When you stop stayin out late at night, drinkin heavy drinks, smokin cigarettes and so on nice things sometimes to do, your expected life doubles. And that´s not all. It also feels much longer :wink: